Chapter 9: Men and women.

"They keep saying the right person will come along, I think mine got hit by a truck".


I used to say that a lot, trying to convince myself how cruel the life is leaving me single. And how I hated the Valentine's day, when you see all these cute couples with happy smiles on their faces hugging each other with the words: "I love you, my sweetheart! I am the happiest women/men in the entire world"!...And you seating all by yourself with lonely cup of coffee trying to hide your envious look. The situation is well-known, ha?

I guess nothing has really changed since than, but me. Every normal man or women wishes to have a partner. When you are laying in your bed some lonely evening you wish somebody would be by your side. However, it suppose to be not just whoever, because you obviously have pretty exact expectations. If somebody would ask you, just by chance, who are you looking for, maybe it would be hard to describe the look, but you'll answer, I am sure, this person has to be gentle, honest, good, loving etc. The list of characteristics normally happens to be very long! But as everybody know life always takes us by surprise and keeps introducing us to the wrong people... So, you are waiting, waiting and ...waiting till your prince or the princess will knock on your door. The point is that waiting is most boring and thankless process, so time is passing by and you are getting more angry and tired. I truly can understand you, because my life includes so many absolutely crazy stories, totally weird men and disappointments that I got tired and a little bit angry too. One day I just found myself staring at my reflection: sad young woman with absolute amazing life, who has everything, but a partner...So, I asked myself:
-How do you think, my dear, does anybody really worth it you being sad and unhappy all the time?
-No, - I have answered, - but there are so many other girls, who are not better looking than me, but with partners. Why? What's wrong with me than?
-There is nothing wrong with you, sweetheart! You know what do you want and who. Your purpose is clear and this is very good, because your man won't just pass by - you are going to see him! Other people...Gosh, there are so many of us, who are so scared of loneliness that we find whoever, just somebody to be with. This is wrong. How can one be happy with the person he/she dos not love?

Well, I know guys it does sound kind of strange having conversation with yourself, but it does help. Just ask one question: do you want to be with anybody or with exact person you are going to have feelings for? What's the point of being with "Mister/Miss whatever"?

Find an answer and try to concentrate on other part of your life or better said on the life itself. Try not to stare at every handsome man or woman that passed by. Enjoy your life going out with friends and visit nice places. Smile!

Sincerely yours,
Lady Svetlana