Chapter 2: Dating. What to do...?

"I don't know the first real thing about the dating game. I don't know how to talk to a specific person and connect. I just think you have to go to person by person and do the best you can with people in general". Jason Schwartzman





I've been planing discussion on this topic for a long time. So, let's get started, shall we? First of all, it would be good to define the word "date" or "dating". I found very interesting page in internet, it's called "urban dictionary" (here is the link: http://www.urbandictionary.com/), where people just write their own definition of words, any words. I believe you can find any word there.
You can find something like that:

dating 1. To see someone. 2. To be with someone. 3. To be "together". 4. The action of doing any sort of various activities to gain acquiantance with someone romanically. I am dating Mike, he is a lot of fun. by Alicia Aug 18, 2003

or like this one:

dating
	socially acceptable form of prostitution. meeting I spent a $30 for a movie, before the first base. A $50 for lunch, for the second base, and a $70 on a romantic dinner before we cut to the chase. by azim & gleb Dec 29, 2004

or even like that:

	dating
	A pointless waste of time... defined by massive usage of cologne and/or perfume, awkward sweaty hand-holding, and feelings of puppy love that usually dissolve in a few weeks (or less) "we're dating, and, like, he, like, is picking me up in 10 minutes!" "wow, you, like, smell, really, like, strong!" by h_diddy Aug 17, 2003

You can find a lot more than that!If you like :-)

I understand the word "date/dating" more like seeing each other or meeting somebody, getting to know each other better, have a nice(or not really) conversation with opposite(or not always :-) sex.
What are your definitions on that word? Would love to read them!

Ok, we're keep going. Actually, the reason why I've raised this topic would be different books, which were and still are written by many wise authors. Books like "Tips and Triks for girls/guys", "How to prepare yourself for a date" etc. Well, in the age of 14 I've red all those books, because I thought they'll give an exact idea of what to do and how to act. You know what I think now? Rubbish! This all is rubbish!
All these advices such as " you need minimum three or more hours to prepare yourself for a date" are just so... silly. Why in the world I would spend three or more hours to get ready? Ridiculous! I believe in taking care of myself: my body, my skin, my face. I have my every day routine: washing my face, using mask, scrub, cream etc. I need one hour in the morning to put a make-up, do my hair ( I have huge fantasy for all kinds of hairstyles, sometimes they are pretty complicated to do) and finally to get dressed. I think you do realise that as a total fashion freak I can't allow myself to put some jeans on, pick some t-shirt and "done". No, new day brings me a new inspiration! I know it would sound kind of arrogant, but I love to feel myself as a peace of art every day. Best feeling in the world!

So, I have to consider that in the evening, when I know I have a date or I'm attending a party/event, with other words, when I know I am not at home, I believe I'll take a shower, refresh my make-up a little bit (what takes me 2 ticks) and choose a nice dress. What I want to say is that I don't need three or more hours to get ready.
About the date itself: I believe everything what you need to be concentrate on is being yourself. Gosh, if you absolutely adore a classical music and the person you date is in love with heavy metal, you don't need to try show you fictional interest about that. It won't work out anyway. Just image that he's going to take you to the concert and you'll have to listening to this music for couple hours. Horror... The best way to find out if your union would work is relax and try not to talk about sex only ;-) Otherwise you'll know how amazing he/she in bed is, but neither about spiritual, nor physical world.

Smile is the best positive thing in the world - remember that. So, relax, listen, react, talk and smile!

Sincerely yours,
Lady Svetlana.